Wednesday 7 November 2012

The Times They Are A Changin'

I'm on a complete high.  Despite predictions of a narrow victory, Barack Obama seems to have swept back to power.  The latest results I have is that he won the popular vote by 59,298,913 votes to Romney's 56,801,964.  If Florida does go to Obama, as looks almost certain currently, the President will have 322 electoral college votes to 206.  It is what I think they technically call a landslide.

There is another big story of interest to me here though, apart from the general rejection of right-wing, conservative philosophy.   There are six US states where same-sex marriage is permitted, but marriage equality was achieved either through law suits or by lawmakers, rather than as a result of direct votes by the population.

Last night, the State of Maine became the first US state to introduce marriage equality.  It has been joined by the State of Maryland and (subject to finally counting) by the State of Washington.  In Mid-West Minnesota, a ballot to introduce a ban on same sex marriage into the constitution was defeated by voters.  These smiling young smiling young faces of discrimination who voted yesterday to enshrine prejudice won't be too happy this morning.



This is massive.  LGBT people are in the minority everywhere, but voters have shown that they do care about issues outside their own personal interests.  Social issues and equality do matter to them. 

There will now be 9 US states where same-sex marriage is legal.  Federal appeal courts have repeatedly struck down the "Defence of Marriage Act"* and it is likely to end in the US Supreme Court.  The President himself took the principled, risky and politically unnecessary step of declaring that he was in favour of marriage equality during the campaign.

Meanwhile, closer to home, yesterday the highest court in Spain declared that same sex marriage is legal and constitutional.  This was in the face of an aggressive challenge by the country's conservative party and the Catholic hierarchy.  Although mired in arguments, the majority of the population in France supports same-sex marriage and its government is drawing up plans to introduce it there.  This will bring to 12 the number of countries with full marriage equality.



Back in May I saw the above tweet.  Its words have really stuck with me.   The fight isn't over yet, but we will get there.  The times, they are a changin'.  They are changing faster than I would ever have thought even two years ago.  An acceptance that lesbians, gays and bisexuals should have equal rights rather than be classed as inferior is rapidly becoming a reality.  The forces of reaction, discrimination and social conservatism are losing.

I don't want to pretend the discrimination I face is anything like that faced by people who have suffered in the past.  It isn't, by a million miles.  However, this picture sums up beautifully how widely accepted societal norms can change in a very short space of time and how we look back on it with genuine incomprehension now.


Thank you America.  Thank you voters in Maine, Maryland, Washington and Minnesota.  Thank you Spanish Constitutional judges.  History is on our side.  Equality is right, it is just, and it is coming.



* Correction: thanks for the comment below. DOMA was penned by Republican Representative Bob Barr and was passed by the Republican dominated Congress.  Every Republican but one, in both houses, voted in favour of it.  A White House spokesman described it as "gay baiting" but President Clinton, not President Bush, signed it into law.


Monday 5 November 2012

Sperm cooked

If you are a guy, and you and your wife are having difficulties making a baby, it could be because:
- You are a chef ie: the heat from the stove affects the sperms
- You use your laptop on your lap

I read it here: Daily Mail

Hmm maybe thats why guys were not meant to cook lol

Saturday 3 November 2012

Anger measurement

So, you are not man enough if you get angry over tiny matters.

Friday 2 November 2012

I am in Glasgow..

It feels like I have been in Glasgow forever already. Being back to Glasgow this time round did not feel as exhilirating like the first time. I knew where to get the bus to campus from the airport. I knew when to press the button for the bus driver to drop me off. I knew where I was lugging my luggage to. I was mentally and physically prepared to WALK and CARRY my almost 30kg worth of goods up the four flights of stairs, if I were to get the highest floor to stay... Which I did! Basically, not feeling clueless or not being a noob in this city practically makes Glasgow feel like home.

My housemate: Funny how we never spoke to each other for three years and now we speak to each other everyday!
The only huge difference compared to KL is that I do not have the luxury of sitting in a car to get from A to B... BUT I have the luxury of using my legs to walk to get from A to B. Heh it is a 'luxury' because in KL, the chances of me having to drag my heavy luggage for a 20 minute walk is slim. In KL, once I arrive at the airport, I collect my luggage and get a trolley and someone who loves me will have a car waiting.... :)The flight to Glasgow was bearable. I was always the kind of person that gets pretty comfortable in an airplane. I can sleep the entire journey, without meds. As usual, I requested for a window seat so I get to see whatever awesome view there is outside. Its not everytime I get to see views from up above. So, why not grab the opportunity when given :)
Emirates served awesome food! It was also pretty filling that I had to save the bun for another time. The list of in-flight movies were abundant. I managed to watch the movies I wanted to, but never got the chance to watch when in KL. I watched the Katy Perry's Part Of Me movie. It was so good, I loved it.
Then, I watched A Little Bit Of Heaven, a romantic comedy starring Kate Hudson. Damn that movie made me cry a river during the flight. I had to constantly cover my face with the pillow because I did not want others to see me cry. It was such a heart warming movie. Then, while I was watching another movie, I saw the person sitting next to me watching A Little Bit Of Heaven. She was a Japanese lady. I was looking at her to see if she was crying or not..... At first no emotions from her, so I thought I was the crazy sensitive one. But, eventually I saw her take a tissue and dab her eyes... Now, thats how good the movie was:):)

What is currently happening to me in Glasgow? The weather is so dry that when I eat m&m's with peanut my pimples start popping out like nobody's business. I tried so many times to call to make an appointment to see a doctor at the Infirmary but they dont bloody pick up the phoen. So, I have been delaying my doctor's visit since my arrival.I should really do it soon before the snow falls and ice comes and then I will have to wait till spring to see the doc *yes, I am exaggerating* Temperatures in Glasgow are single digits already.It is cloudy mostly.
There are days when it get sunny and everyone falls in love with the sun when we are in Glasgow. Such a rare sight! THe sunlight does not burn like the one in KL
To try to cure my pimples, I bought vegetables like broccoli, cabbage and carrots.... I left it in the shelf till some became mouldy. So, in one day I had to cook all the good looking vege and spent the entire week finishing it. That is why I hate buying vegetables. I procrastinate when it comes to cooking vegetables. Feels like too much effort to cut, wash and peel off the skin. And then have to stand in front of the stove and boil it which then makes my shirt stink. But for a better pimpleless face, I need to cultivate the habit of eating those greens. Heh, my apples were in the fridge for a month before I ate it :P
My hand itches when I am back in Glasgow to try to experiment new ways of making things in the kitchen. Basically, its making a meal with whatever things I have in my fridge.Heres one: Bread topped with garlic, butter, smoked salmon, mozzarella cheese and McDonalds chilli sauce! Its a pizza la. Absolutely fatty but satisfyin to my tastebuds.
People ask me if there was anything new in Glasgow. I found out there was a Morrisons nearby.
My brother's injured leg because he twisted it while playing basketball!
I am trying a more healthier approach to my food intake. So, to start off, I change my choice of breakfast. At first it was chocolate milk or mot milo. Now, because I can make yoghurt thanks to Easiyo, strawberry homemade yoghurt with berries cornflakes has been my daily breakfast staple.
My pancakes
Lamb beriyani
Snack
Two of my other housemates are Indian, so they were using these sauces which I have never heard of. Balti, Jalfrezi, Masala.... so on. I had the urge to eat lamb beriyani, so I googled and they said to use Balti curry paste. Its actually so easy to find these sauces in the supermarket. I ended up using the Balti sauce to mix with my cabbage, carrots and potatoes. It tasted like dahl. Jalfrezi is good to make curry chicken. I found beriyani sauce in Aldi selling for 99p. I made Lamb Beriyani with it and it turned out really well and spicy too :)thats all for now.....

Stonewall and Bigot of the Year

Stonewall, the LGBT charity and campaign group, has been widely criticised for its "Bigot of the Year" prize that is included in its annual awards.  Last night the prize was awarded to Cardinal O'Brien, the head of the Scottish Catholic Church, following votes cast by 10,000 supporters of the charity. 

The Catholic Church has responded and accused the "the depth of the intolerance" of Stonewall and a willingness to demean people who do not share their views.  Corporate sponsors Barclays and Coutts have both said they will rethink their support following complaints from Christian campaigners about the singling out of individuals for the bigot category.

Cardinal Keith O'Brien

I've seen members of the gay community both supporting and criticising Stonewall this morning and for what it's worth, here are my own thoughts.

Worthy Recipients

The people who were nominated for the award are as follows:
  • Lord Ken Magnnis: had the Ulster Unionist whip taken away from him after saying that homosexuality was "unnatural and deviant" and equated it to bestiality on BBC radio
  • Archbishop Philip Tartaglia: Roman Catholic Archbishop of Glasgow, who said the late David Cairns MP may have died because he was gay
  • Father Simon Lokodohe: former Roman Catholic priest and now Ugandan minister.  Suggested gay rights activists recruit children into homosexuality.  Supporter (but not initiator) of the "Kill the Gays Bill" which prohibits any form of sexual relations between persons of the same sex and introduces life imprisonment for offences, or the death penalty in some cases.
  • Alan Craig: leader of the Christian People's Alliance and Member of Council of the Movement for Christian Democracy.  Coined the word "Gaystapo" by comparing compared gay equality advocates to Nazis
  • Cardinal Keith O'Brien: head of Scottish Roman Catholic Church.  Described gay people as "captives of sexual aberrations", has been at the vanguard of attacks on marriage equality proposals which he describes as "madness" and has likened to slavery
Pick whichever of these fine "Christian" chaps you will: I'd say their views were all pretty abhorrent and they deserve to be condemned for them, especially by a charity that is devoted to furthering LGBT equality and the well-being of its community.  These are vile views. 

I can't say who the obvious winner is, personally, but I would just say in passing that Stonewall is a British charity, with a UK focus, so the fact that Father Lokodohe did not win is not that great of a surprise to me.  I also know that Cardinal O'Brien's powerful position has meant his words have far more influence than the others'.  He has taken to the Daily Telegraph to set out his opposition to marriage equality, required every Catholic church in Scotland to read out a letter opposing the plans and has called them a "grotesque subversion of a universally accepted human right".

The Word Bigot

Much of the criticism of the award has come from people pointing out the narrow linguistic meaning of the word "bigot".  They perhaps have a point: the term relates specifically to those who are strongly partial to their own group and who are intolerant of those whose opinion differs. 

I therefore can see why Stonewall's calling O'Brien a bigot for not agreeing on marriage equality could attract this response.  Stonewall objects to his views on marriage equality, and is therefore intolerant itself.  It becomes a bit of a silly tit-for-tat if we reduce it to this argument and we are missing the point. 

My suggestion is to rename the award "Homophobe of the Year".  We are not then framing the issue as intolerance of other people's views, but simply "fear of, or contempt of, lesbians and gay men".  Seems much more fitting to me: O'Brien has shown contempt of lesbians and gay men and of their dignity and basic rights.

Should there be such an Award?

Yes.   I'm afraid that as long as people feel it is appropriate to say that my behaviour is unnatural/ deviant, that people die early because they are gay, that gay people should be killed, that I'm a captive of sexual aberration, or that if I wish to marry the man I love this is a grotesque subversion of a human right I reserve the right to call them out on it, to object to it, and even to mock them for it.


I therefore think Stonewall's approach is broadly correct and that undeserved deference is being given to O'Brien.  I am quite sure that is simply because he is a Cardinal, and many think he is therefore deserving of some special respect for his abhorrent views and actions.  If an LGBT campaign group does not draw attention to them, who is supposed to? 

It is also a typically British response to try to mask the debate in terms of "reasonableness".  Oh, it's not polite to call such a terribly respectable and important man a bigot!  Oh, if we do that we risk removing all meaning from the term.. etc.  There is no need to resort to the type of abuse he has employed, but the strength of his repeated utterances and attacks on the rights of LGBT people makes me understand why many feel his has forfeit his right to polite reasonableness.  Keith O'Brien is in my view a homophobe who attacks LGBT people, and deserves to be labelled as one.

There are justified narrow linguistic reasons to object to the "bigot" word, but leaving that aside, let's praise Ben Summerskill for having the courage not to stand down on this, even in the face of corporate pressure and threats to funding from the banks.  I'm with Owen Jones on this:











Thursday 1 November 2012

The Clocks Have Gone Back

The clocks went back last weekend and the long, dark evenings are with us again.  This little post draws together a few random reflections on this - given it's dark, wet and cold outside, sit down snug and give it a read.  I think my last few posts have been far too earnest: this lighthearted fluff on my blog is much my staple!

The Best Time for "Love"

I kick off my reflections with a wonderful little piece of medieval Dutch literature from the "Abele Spelen" collection of plays.  It is called "Vanden Winter ende vanden Somer" (About Summer and Winter).  It's all about shagging and I studied it as part of my ever-so-eccentric Modern and Medieval German and Dutch degree.  The little play dates from about 1350, and the original handwritten manuscript is a tiny fragile bound book that was found by chance.  It is housed in the Royal Library in Brussels and is one of the oldest surviving, non-religious, West European plays.

The play: It's actually just about shagging

It is a beautiful, funny piece, which essentially looks at the question of whether "love" is better in the summer or in the winter.  The character of Winter claims that his season is best because of long, snug nights to play the "game of love".  Somer counters this by claiming that with the beautiful weather and sunshine, his is the "happy season for happy hearts".

The two characters get into an argument, challenge each other to a duel, and the death of one or both of them is only averted when the Goddess of Love, Venus, intervenes.  She points out that the year would be completely out of kilter with one of the seasons missing, and that love is equal regardless of the season.  Harmony is restored and everyone can go home and get down to it.

Interestingly, it seems "Winter" was actually correct  This table from the New York Times at least suggests quite convincingly that more babies are born in September than any other time of year.  Every single one of the top 10 most common birthdays falls between 9 and 21 September.  You may therefore be depressed about the weather and lack of light in the evenings, but there are, it seems compensations...  people shag on the dark, cold evenings of December!

The Clocks Have Gone Back

Summer time is, in my opinion, a wonderful idea.  It was first proposed by a New Zealander in the late 19th century, but wasn't introduced until 30 April 1916, in Germany.  It was a means of saving energy during summer time in order to help with the War effort.  It was quickly copied by other countries.

It wasn't until 1996 that the European Union standardised the dates when the clocks moved forwards and backwards: before that I seem to remember British clocks moved back in October, and most Continental ones moved back already in September.  That was quite confusing because for 4 weeks the time was the same in Britain as it was in France.  Now European Summer Time runs nice and uniformly from the last Sunday in March through to the last Sunday in October.  

That point is worth reflecting on: it's not 6 months on GMT and 6 months on BST for us; in fact we are on "summer time" for 7 months a year, and "winter time" for only 5 months a year.  If you don't like the evenings being dark early, that's some consolation.

Light, bright evenings - remember them?!

The Evenings are Drawing In

Next, it is obviously getting darker earlier at the moment.  What you might not realise, though, is that although the days are "becoming shorter" the speed at which this is happening is not by any means constant.

We all know that the "longest day" is 21 June and the "shortest day" is 21 December.  What happens after 21 June, is the sun rises later and sets earlier.  This process is at first quite gradual, but it picks up speed and is at its fastest around the Vernal (or Autumn) Equinox on 21 September.

To provide some examples of this, for London, this year:

22 June had 6 seconds less daylight than 21 June 
2 July had 1 minute 5 seconds less daylight than 1 July
22 July had 2 minutes 34 seconds less daylight than 21 July
22 September had 3 minutes and 54 seconds less daylight than 21 September

You can see what is happening: as we move away from the longest day, the speed at which we lose daylight speeds up.  The loss of light is at its fastest around 21 September, and then it slows down.  Tomorrow's daylight will be 3 minutes and 32 seconds shorter than today's: the rate at which the days are shortening is slowing down and will almost grind to a halt as we hit December.  There will be just 3 seconds less daylight on 21 December than on 20 December.  The days will then lengthen after the Winter Equinox, but very slowly at first.  By 21 March, however, we'll be adding a stonking 3 minutes 58 seconds light to each day.

If you want a play with all these times, then click here.  You can change the location and you'll find the speed of acceleration and deceleration is more extreme the further north you are: Glasgow loses 4 minutes 35 seconds on 21 September, while in Finland it is 5 minutes 25 seconds.

What does all this mean?  Well in a nutshell, the days are "shortening", but we're now over the worst in terms of the speed of this process.  Each day will be "shorter", but it's just 7 weeks to go until 21 December and the speed of the loss of daylight will be slower each day until then.  That's *great* news, isn't it?


Marking the Seasons

Plenty of people suffer from the very genuine condition of "Seasonal Affective Disorder" and I don't wish to belittle the way this affects them at all.  Others, like me, just get fed up with the long, dark evenings.  This is particularly the case if our boyfriends are studying at Manchester University and we can't do rude things with them to pass the time in an attempt to confirm that "Winter" of the Abele Spelen was entirely correct in his argument.

I've found that instead of being in denial about the longer evenings, I do a few practical things that mark the change from British Summer Time to GMT.  I switch my clothes over: my winter ones are stored away in boxes under my bed and come out when the clocks change.  This is a trick I learned from my Mutti, who always used to do this with us as kids.  I've never quite understood the English phenomenon of not wearing any clothes when the weather is freezing, particularly when queuing in a skimpy shirt or t-shirt outside a nightclub in the snow.  If it's winter, put a bloody coat, gloves and scarf on.


Save the Environment! Wear a Onesie

I wear thick sweaters indoors at home too, with the temperature at 19C - not a t-shirt, wasting energy heating the place to 22C.  It's great houses are better insulated, double glazed and centrally heated nowadays, but is that a reason to pretend it's still summer and dressing accordingly indoors?  Since discovering the the wonders of the Onesie I dress up as a tiger or a monkey when at home and can knock the heating down even lower.  They're sooooo snug and I look forward to the winter just to have an excuse to put mine on.

My winter boots for walking the dog also come out when the clocks change.  I change my duvet over from a light one to a thick goose down one and I light candles in the evening.  It makes the place feel warm and atmospheric.  I also have summer and winter curtains.  My summer curtains are light cream coloured.  My winter ones are dark chocolate brown.  I switch them over when the clocks change and they completely affect the look and mood of my little cottage.  The winter ones give it a warm, cosy feel, while the summer ones make it feel airy and bright.  I sound like some toss-pot from an interior design programme don't I?  Splendid.

Beige Mats! Useless in Winter, but oh so nice in the Summer
I also have two sets of mats for my car, which I also change over the clocks change.  I have black ones for the winter, which cope better with muddy shoes and dirt; and I have beige ones for the summer, which look and feel much more luxurious from March to October.  Having two sets of curtains and two sets of car mats is hardly a necessity and it's not cheap...  but I really do like it. 

Summary: Go With It
It's so easy to have that sinking feeling at this time of year... and it's even easier once the brightness and excitement of Christmas has come and gone.   I live on a frequently cold, rainy, dark little island off the coast of Europe.  I've come to realise there is very little point in wishing we had Californian weather year round: we don't.  Given this is the case, I try to make the best of it.

Therefore I've some funny little routines that mean I try to go with the flow of the natural year, rather than denying it.  I like marking the change in the seasons by bringing out a new set of clothes, and storing away the bulk of my t-shirts and shorts until BST returns.  I like the snug feel of the dark curtains and the look (and practicality) of the winter mats in the car.  Switching everything over to the "summer version" is also something I look forward to enormously during those long days of February when Christmas is a distant memory, and it seems it's truly darkest before the dawn.

I also try to realise that there are plus points to the dark evenings.  An evening cuddling the dog, reading a book or listening to music, with candles on is quite wonderful.  This is the natural flow of the year and by the time the clocks have gone back as they just have, the loss of daylight is actually slowing down.  It's only 5 months that we are actually on GMT, and in 7 weeks' time the days will be slowly lengthening again.  Last of all, as Venus noticed 650 years again in a sweet little Dutch play, if we didn't have Winter, we'd all be screwed.  Or not, as the case might be :o