Showing posts with label relationship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label relationship. Show all posts

Friday 26 July 2013

Salsa away


If you have not tried salsa, you should!
Its the one time as a female you get to hold different guy's hands with no strings attached :p 

Truthfully, switching dance partners is not really nice because you have to touch other people's sweaty hands. But, the dance itself is beautiful especially when the men are good at leading. This is one time I will let the men lead ;)
Below is a video of what I did in salsa class.

On another note, there was this amazing hotel/apartments in Battersea which had their balconies all covered with glass.

Heathrow Airport is so near to Battersea area that I can hear the roaring of airplanes constantly throughout the day. Note the plane flying above the apartment in the picture below. Its so frequent that you will never miss it and the planes are really low so the sound is much louder.

Sunday 2 June 2013

A man who cheats gets some heat

A letter viewed by 180000 people, written by a girl who found out her bf was cheating.

Tuesday 7 May 2013

Origami fail

He says, "I am trying to make a unicorn for you."
After two weeks...
"I tried to make it look like a unicorn. Here it is."

Hahahaha

Thursday 18 April 2013

Whom you marry matters

After reading this, I can say the jerk I was with was an absolute ass. He was only 5%.
"listen up: who you marry matters. You might think that the way he treats you isn’t so bad. It’s not going to get better after the wedding. You might think that he’ll change. It’s possible, but most don’t. "

Read below (agree with almost all... Minus the bible/christ stuff):

There were three kids sitting across from us at a meal: two guys and a girl. The one guy was a computer geek with glasses. The other one was a college student with slightly cooler hair and no glasses. The girl was obviously with him. But while the computer geek was busy serving everyone at the meal, clearing plates and garbage, the college student got angry with the girl for a small accident and poured red juice over her leather jacket and white shirt. She picked the wrong guy, and the juice didn’t seem to change her mind. She is in for some grief if that relationship continues and especially if it leads to marriage.

So to all the young, unmarried Christian girls out there, listen up: who you marry matters. You might think that the way he treats you isn’t so bad. It’s not going to get better after the wedding. You might think that he’ll change. It’s possible, but most don’t. You might think that you’ll be able to minister to him and help him. Possibly, but if you can’t now, you won’t then, and you will be at risk yourself. A husband should lead and cherish you, not need your counsel for basic personality or behavior issues.

Unless someone married is very frank with you, you can’t understand how much a husband will impact your entire life. Next to salvation there is no other long term event that will change so many areas of your life so deeply. Here are just some of the ways that marriage will impact every aspect of living.

1. It will impact you spiritually. If the guy is not a believer, you can stop right there. You have no business yoking a redeemed soul with an unregenerate one, even if he seems open to change. Christ has bought you with a price and it is not an option to give away that blood bought heart to someone who doesn’t know and love your Lord. It will cripple your spiritual development, open up a host of temptations, stifle your prayer life, make regular church going difficult, and cause massive parenting conflict if you have children.

If the guy is a believer, is he a strong one? Will he lead you in prayer, Bible reading, family devotions, and public worship? Or will you be on your own? Is he going to make spiritual growth a priority or do other things come first? Is he going to ask you how it’s going with your soul so he can help you grow in holiness and love for Christ, or will he leave that to your pastor? Is he going to lead the children in this, or will you have to spearhead that? In church, is he going to help the kids sit well, pray, find the hymn, or will you be the one pointing out what is happening next and helping the family keep up? Many women have married spiritually immature men, thinking that it wasn’t a big issue, or that the man would change, and they were wrong. They bear the scars.

The health of your eternity is at stake. Think carefully.

2. It will impact you emotionally. Is the guy you’re thinking of going to encourage you, love you, be kind to you, and seek to understand you, or will he want to go out with the guys when you’re having a hard night? Will he listen when you are struggling with something or will he be preoccupied with a video game? Is he going to be annoyed when you cry or will he get you Kleenex and give you a hug? Is he going to going to understand that you are probably more tender than he is, more sensitive to issues and comments, or is he regularly going to run rough shod over your feelings? One woman was struggling to breastfeed her new baby, believing that that was the best thing for her, but it was very difficult. Instead of giving support and encouragement, the husband would make mooing sounds whenever he saw his wife working at it. We have to get rid of princess complexes, but we do have emotional needs. Any guy who is uncaring about your feelings and self esteem is selfish and should be left alone.

Be careful – a husband can cripple or foster emotional health.

3. It will impact you physically. Is the guy you’re with going to provide for your basic needs? Will he be able to shelter, clothe and feed you? At one point in our marriage, I was worried that there was no employment opportunity. My husband assured me that he would work at McDonalds, dig ditches, clean up roadkill – whatever it took to provide for the family, regardless of his gifts and training. That’s the kind of attitude you want. A man who doesn’t provide for his household is worse than an infidel (I Tim. 5:8). You might have to help ease the financial burden, but unless your husband is disabled or there is another unusual circumstance, you shouldn’t have to carry it yourself.

Will the man you are with care for your body or abuse it? If he gives you little smacks, kicks, etc. when you’re dating, get away. It’s almost guaranteed that he will abuse you after marriage, and stats show that’s especially true when you are pregnant. Is he going to care for and protect your body or will he hurt it? There are women in churches across America who thought it was no big deal to have little (sort of friendly) punches or slaps from their boyfriends, but who are covering up the bruises from their husbands.

Will the man you are with care for you sexually? Is he going to honour the marriage bed in physical and mental faithfulness to you or will he flirt, feed his porn addiction, or even leave you for another woman? You can’t always predict these issues, but if the seeds or practices are already there, watch out. I recently saw a newly married couple and the husband was flirting openly with another woman. Unless something drastic happens, that marriage is headed for disaster.

Is he going to be tender and gentle to you in bed? An unbelieving co-worker once told my sister that after her first sexual encounter, she had trouble walking for a few days because her boyfriend was so rough. In other words, he wasn’t selfless enough to care for the body of the woman he said he loved.

Watch out. Your body needs care and protection.

4. It will impact you mentally. Is the man that you’re thinking of going to be a source of worry or will he help you deal with your worries? Is he going to encourage your intellectual development, or will he neglect it? Is he going to value your opinions and listen to what you are thinking, or will he disregard your thoughts? Is he going to help you manage stress so that your mind is not burdened that way, or is he going to let you struggle through issues alone? Is he going to care for you and be thoughtful of you if you are experiencing mental strain, or will he ignore it? I know of a woman who could handle pregnancy and child birth very well physically but postpartum depression took a huge toll on her mind. The husband overlooked it, continuing to have more children, until his wife ended up in a mental institution.

You might think that the intellectual or mental side of a marriage is small. It’s bigger than you think. Consider it seriously.

5. It will impact you relationally. How’s your relationship with your mother? Your dad? Do you love them? Does your boyfriend? Fast forward ten years: you tell your husband that your mother is coming for the weekend. Is he excited? Disappointed? Angry? Making snide jokes with his friends? Of course, a husband should come first in your priority of relationships, as you both leave father and mother and cleave to one another. But parents are still a big part of the picture. Whatever negative feelings he has about your parents now will probably be amplified after marriage. Your marriage will either strengthen or damage – even destroy – your relationship with your parents. The people who know you best and love you most right now could be cut out of the picture by a husband who hates them.

It’s the same with sisters and friends. Will they be welcomed, at reasonable times, in your home? Will the guy who you’re with encourage healthy relationships with other women, or will he be jealous of normal, biblical friendships? Will he help you mentor younger women and be thankful when older women mentor you, or will he belittle that?

Don’t sacrifice many good relationships for the sake of one guy who can’t value the people who love you.

So how will your boyfriend do after the vows? Because this is just a sampling of the ways that a husband can bless or curse his wife. The effects are far reaching, long lasting, and either wonderful or difficult. True, there are no perfect men out there. But there are great ones. And it’s better to be single for life than to marry someone who will make your life a burden. Singleness can be great. Marriage to the wrong person is a nightmare. I’ve been in a church parking lot where the pastor had to call the police to protect a wife from a husband who was trying to stop her from worshiping and being with her family. It’s ugly. Don’t be so desperate to get married that your marriage is a grief. If you are in an unhappy marriage, there are ways to get help. But if you’re not married, don’t put yourself in that situation. Don’t marry someone whose leadership you can’t follow. Don’t marry someone who is not seeking to love you as Christ loved the church. Marry someone who knows and demonstrates the love of Christ.

Friday 22 March 2013

My Heart melted

A special smile a special face,
A special someone no one can replace.
I love you and always will,
You've filled a space no one could fill.



Thursday 28 February 2013

Joy of cooking

Its such a joy to hear Men telling me they enjoy cooking :):)

I love a guy who enjoys cooking. At least we can spend time together in the kitchen since I like to cook too! So exciting.

Monday 25 February 2013

12/21 days

Charlie Sheen says,"The best way to not get your heart broken is to pretend you dont have a heart."

I will argue with that because:
1. it was the heartless person that cheated
2. It was the heartless person who lied
3. It was the heartless person who broke your heart

So, why be heartless like that person? :)

On another note,
Don't argue with an idiot
He will drag you down to his level
And beat you with his experience



13/21 days



Sunday 24 February 2013

Come on laaa

I received a message. A message with words every single female dreams of hearing. Words you wish your guy would be like.

My thoughts:
He Probably sent the same message to a million females.
Not flattered, but skeptical.

Doink





Saturday 23 February 2013

15/21 days

“The happiness of life is made up of minute fractions - the little, soon-forgotten charities of a kiss or smile, a kind look, a heart-felt compliment, and the countless infinitesimals of pleasurable and genial feeling”

--- Samuel Taylor



Friday 22 February 2013

Men + Dick

taken from The Star:
A group of women in Bentong complained that China dolls had ruined their families and hoped that the relevant authorities would look into the problem.

One of them said that her 53-year-old husband moved in with a woman from China six months ago and refused to come back.

“Some of my friends also faced the same predicament. They even threatened to commit suicide but their husbands still refused to come back,” she said.

Another woman said her unmarried uncle, who is in his 50s, always asked for money from his elderly mother to support his girlfriend from China and this had caused a dispute among his siblings.

Thursday 21 February 2013

Wednesday 20 February 2013

18/21days

I gave myself 24 hours to mourn.
I gave myself 24 hours to rage.
I gave myself 24 hours to talk about it to friends.
I gave myself 24 hours to think.
I gave myself 24 hours to forget.
I gave myself 24 hours to open up and be vulnerable.

24 hours is up.
I can sleep properly now :)


Tuesday 19 February 2013

Point taken


You need someone more dedicated to you
Wrap up this phase of your life
Transition into a life with better friends,
and a better boyfriend.
Get started on something that you
know have direct value in your life.
Shift your attention to your needs and goals,
and begin detaching from him emotionally.
There isn’t much he has to offer at this point
other than his empty words without action.

Monday 18 February 2013

21 days

Dear Alex.
thankyouverymuch!!
=D

I used to date a scumbag

You see when u catch your asshole boyfriend flirting with another girl, you should just dump him ON THE SPOT because he probably has interest in that female.

Its true from my experience. He is with that girl now. But u know in my case, he flirted with so many females, this is probably just ONE of his conquest and he will get bored again and move on.

Throw all his gifts into the bin, thats what you should do!